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user1 Posted at June 04, 2008 at 01:52 AM	This is your chance to ask the girls for advice…
Abby_M Posted at June 04, 2008 at 01:52 AM	Hello Larry. You are from VA too.. Hello neighbor:) To answer your question, it is very common for Asian and Pacific Islander parents to want their kids to date in their own race. A lot of Asian parents are very traditional. My opinion on this issue is to be honest with your family on who you are dating, whether they are black, white, yellow, pink or blue. You have to give your family a chance to get to know the person that you are in a relationship with, so they can see what you saw in them. I know not everyone is open-minded, but I think If you and your GF/BF make an effort to gain the parent’s approval, it will all work out in the end. So, it is worth a try to make an effort, and if it doesn’t work, hmmmmm, you have to ask yourself if the person you are dating is someone that you should defend and fight for to your family. If they are, go for it and hope for the family to come around in the end. If they are not worth fighting for, move on and find someone else better for you..
Larry_Va Posted at June 04, 2008 at 01:52 AM	I have learned much about her culture and traditions. It is still very hard. I am not able to go meet her Family at this time. I want to thank you for your responses and hope to get a few more. Kim I think you nailed it on the head. I can’t believe how interesting it is to be with someone from another culture. I think it makes our relationship better because I can share my culture as much as I can learn hers.
Larry_Va Posted at June 04, 2008 at 01:52 AM	How do you deal with a relationship with someone of a different culture. Since most of you are of asian desent. Have you ever experienced being with someone that your family did not accept or you worried they would not accept because he or she was not of the same culture or background as your family. If so how did you handle it? If not do you have any suggestions??
Kim_Loan Posted at June 04, 2008 at 01:52 AM	Hi Larry! It is important that you try to learn as much background information as possible such as their culture, language or religion (if any). Especially with Asian families, we are very traditional and family value is what we honored the most! Try to find some sort of common ground that you can connect with the family. It’s important to win the family heart before you can be accepted into the family. Sometime you do have to work twice as hard when you are dating someone that has a different culture. If she’s the one, than its definitely worth fighting for!